I’m Tayler. I’m a dude. For the longest time, I was in the ranks of those who thought of feminists as extremist man-haters, who wanted to exact revenge on men. I was very quickly and decided proved wrong when my sister asked me a series of questions about equality. When I answered all of her questions in favor of gender equality, she told me I was a feminist. That didn’t sit well at first, but the more research I did the more convinced I became that it was true. And then early this year, I decided to actually do something about it. I created theequalityofmarsandvenus.com which is a blog about LDS Feminism. It highlights specific people, and is smattered with a few of my own musings. One of the women featured on that blog is the creator of this very site. She’s one of my good friends from high school.
What do Mormon feminists believe about Heavenly Father and Mother?
Well, I can’t speak for Mormon feminists, but Heavenly Mother is out there. She’s equal with Heavenly Father, and just as concerned and involved with out lives as He is. We can’t see her, and we don’t know much about her, but she’s there. I believe that She has just as much power, capacity for love, and glory as the Father does. She must. Otherwise, how could it be Justice? And God is nothing, if not Just.
in November 12, 2013
Hello, I’m Clarissa and I am a Mormon feminist! This is a cause that I am passionate about; it excites me and motivates me to rise to my potential as a daughter of Heavenly Parents. When women are empowered, validated, respected, and equalized—society benefits, period. Women have such potential and such amazing gifts to offer, it is truly a pity for those to be overlooked in the name of patriarchy or female submission as a “virtue”. Therefore, feminism is essential to getting women on equal ground with men.
Being a Mormon feminist has been such an immense blessing in my life; it strengthens my testimony, brings me closer to my Heavenly Father and Mother, enlightens my mind in Gospel truths, and draws me nearer to the Savior. I am committed to this work and I know that it is right.
Do Mormon Feminists hate men?
Hardly! To the contrary, we love, respect, and admire men. We who are Mormon feminists are not an alien breed of women; we are mothers, grandmothers, sisters, daughters, wives, and friends to men. We see how instrumental they are in our lives and how much they are needed in the Plan of Salvation. We want EQUALITY with men, not superiority over them.
And just to make sure I leave no rock left unturned, let me be clear that I, nor any Mormon feminist I know, have any desire to be a man. I abhor the idea of wearing a suit to church, I find dresses far more pretty and girly. I don’t want a beard, ever, nor do I want anyone to ever mistake me as a man. Nothing wrong with men, but I love being a woman. Being EQUAL with men is in no way whatsoever synonymous with wanting to BE a man.
I love men being men (expecially manly men, let me just say “rawr”). I also love equality. You can love feminism and also love men; neither are mutually exclusive.
How did you come out as a Mormon Feminist to your friends and family?
This question is both funny and sad; funny, because it makes being a Mormon feminist seem to be radical. Sad, in that too many believe that it IS radical. Radical as in unconventional, yes; in which Jesus Christ and Joseph Smith could be considered “radical”. But feminism should not be regarded as this spooky, crazy, power-hungry, hippie movement that should be feared and viewed with contempt; it isn’t any of the aforementioned words at all.
For a little background on me, am a Latter-Day Saint who has lived in Idaho her entire life and attended BYU-Idaho for four years. So it’s fair to say that my circle is primarily fellow LDS members, mostly conservative. So “coming out” as a feminist was a bit daunting at first; some people scolded with claims I was “being led astray” or “had lost my testimony” (nothing could be further from the truth, feminism strengthened my testimony in the Gospel), others openly ridiculed, and others even stopped speaking to me over it, citing archaic quotes about feminism being the downfall to society and such.
I “came out” by initially speaking up in my religion classes at BYU-Idaho when subjects such as gender roles, “separate but equal” nonsense, and other patriarchal subjects arose. This progressed into posting feminist material on social media and encouraging a dialogue. Soon, I was talking about feminism in everyday conversations with anybody who wanted to listen and enjoyed being able to dispel the myths about feminism.
It’s really not too difficult to “come out” as a Mormon feminist. It can be a little intimidating in the beginning because you don’t know how people will respond. Will people think I’m apostasizing? Am I going to get a reputation as being some hippie nut because people misunderstand my views? Worst of all (at least to me), is will I be mocked and made fun of? Because of all ways people can express dislike for you, the sting of ridicule can hurt the most.
But guess what? Good news is, the reality of anyone harping on you for being a feminist is NEVER AS BAD IN ACTUALITY AS IT IS IN THE SCARY “WHAT IF” CORNER OF OUR MINDS. Believe me, what we can think of in our mind is far, far worse than anything that will actually happen. And when you let people know who you are and what you stand for, there’s an empowering peace that comes from it that makes everything worth it.
in November 9, 2013
Hi, I’m Sarah:
I am a mormon feminist because I believe that differences of gender should not dictate what our roles are in life but rather that we all have the same opportunities to nurture, provide, and preside the best way we can with the Lord and our Heavenly Parent’s instructions.
How do you live your faith as a Mormon feminist? I live my faith, one day at a time. At first there is this learning curve I had to get used to going from believing entirely in the way things were (Patriarchal order, men have priesthood, women have motherhood) to realizing I did have doubts and questions, and that not everything was equal. I read the scriptures, pray, and go to church, but like everything there is a healing process after disappointment and grief over a loss which causes me to take a break every now and then. This loss was the loss of what previously had tethered me to the church, my testimony. I have learned that I just need to build a new testimony based on the Atonement, on what I believe about the restoration, on Heavenly Parents who love us. It means I need to learn how to read the scriptures again from a more liberal perspective, and have confidence the Holy Spirit will guide me. In a way I live my faith the same way my Orthodox Mormon brother’s and sister’s live their faith. I live it with doubts, I live it with faith, and when faith isn’t strong enough, I live it with hope.
Most of all I live it with the prayer that God will indeed reveal more things pertaining to the kingdom of God, then already is revealed. I hope that revelation creates more opportunity for women rather than less. I hope that revelation reveals things that will shock everybody with something they didn’t expect, but brings them great joy, including me.
in November 8, 2013
My name is Charlene and I’m a Mormon Feminist because I was taught when young that I have a Heavenly Mother who cares about me and answers my prayers. I have seen the tragedy of women who have tried to fit into the church mold for women and have to take drugs to get through the day. Something is wrong. We have to acknowledge the Divine Feminine, give room for individuality, seek to really know our individual roles in the plan and stake our claim in the culture we live in and not budge. It is time!
in September 17, 2013
I’m Katie and I’m a Mormon Feminist. Why? Because I believe in women’s strength and potential and believe it should be used to it’s fullest, which currently is not happening. Anguish bubbles up inside of me because of this. I’m a feminist because I know that my Heavenly Parents do not want me to feel inferior to my brothers. I love the gospel, I love my God, and I love my fellow brothers and sisters - this is why I’m a Mormon Feminist.
in August 13, 2013
I’m Jerusha. I’m a sister, a daughter, a partner, and a mother. I live in north central Massachusetts with my family. I teach Sunday School and college. I’m a Mormon feminist because I have always had a keen sense that our Heavenly Parents see their sons and daughters as equals.